TIPS FOR BECOMING A BDSM EXPERT

If sex were like fashion, then BDSM would be all over the magazines. We are constantly building our confidence and desire to try new things, thanks to a certain book and subsequent movie that gave more awareness to BDSM orientation. With little knowledge of BDSM, it is easy to have a misconception about it. So, let’s have a short intro to BDSM.

What Is BDSM?

BDSM is a term that refers to an aspect of the sexual mainstream which can be divided into groups of bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. 

It’s a common misconception that BDSM is a sinister, dark pursuit that involves beating and hitting the sexual partner until they yield. However, there are several parts to play under the BDSM umbrella. Some people enjoy tickling, which can be amusing, pleasurable, or awful depending on how you do it; others may enjoy the pleasure that comes with the aesthetic and connection formed by Japanese rope bondage. Below are some tips for becoming a BDSM expert.

1.Educate Yourself

BDSM, as portrayed in film or porn, is often inaccurate and might also not work for you because they are the most extreme. This is why you must educate yourself and figure out which one is convenient and can be played with your partner. Also, it is important to understand the risk of the sexual mainstream you want to dwell on. Determining the risk will guide you to pleasurable sex and ensure your partner’s comfort.

2.Mutual Consent

Seek the consent of your partner before starting. BDSM encounters can be a safe and inclusive sexual experience when consent is given in an uncovered and enthusiastic manner by your partner. Mind you. Consent can be reviewed at any time, even during sex. If your partner feels uncomfortable before or during the encounter, they can revoke the consent.  

3.Establish A Safe Word

Central to the idea of BDSM is mutual consent between the parties. However, it isn’t easy to distinguish between a playful and an honest request to slow down or stop in the heat of the moment. This is why having a safe word is vital in every BDSM encounter. This word will be an indicator to show that a boundary has been exceeded and requires a break. You may choose to have two safe words, one that indicates a stop in action and the other that means you are approaching a boundary.

4.Dirty Talk

You and your partner can engage in dirty conversation. The dirty talk goes with all themes of BDSM. It allows you to express your desires, and verbal cues also assist you in visualising hot fantasies. For instance, if you have a fantasy of being submissive and restrained, and you hear your partner say they want to tie you and use you, consensually, as they want, or you refer to them respectfully. Imagine the can of pleasure you will derive from such an experience. 

5.Role-Playing

One of the ways to get you in the mood is role-playing. Putting yourself in the shoes of persons whose power dynamics you’d like to explore can get you into a kinky mood. You can pick many personas, such as doctor-patient, teacher-student, pilot-flight attendant, or even anime characters. If you get turned on by BDSM but get nervous, the right outfits could help. Get creative and dress up to explore your sexual desires. 

6.Ropes And Cuffs

Ropes and handcuffs are common restraint tools you can use for BDSM. While ropes are versatile because they require tying skills, handcuffs are quite user-friendly. Also, handcuffs are very good for submissive partners since they will be unable to touch themselves, which is perfect for experimenting with orgasm control.

7.Experiment Orgasm Control

Orgasm control entails inducing orgasm in someone and then abruptly ceasing the stimulation, and then repeating as desired. Delaying that fulfilment can make the ultimate end even more pleasurable. Let your partner use their lips or sex toys to bring you closer to the climax and stop right before you get off. When you can’t take it any longer, tell your partner to get you across the finish line while you await the breathtaking orgasm.

8.Aftercare

Like every other sexual activity, BDSM can physically, emotionally, and mentally task the participants. By implication, healthy aftercare is the next step immediately after the sexual experience. Helping each other clean up and having a discussion can help foster a sense of calm and physical and emotional wellness. 

These pointers give an excellent intro to BDSM, from which you can begin your exploration of sexual pleasure in a respectful environment and be the expert in your sexual mainstream.